Sunday, June 14, 2009
We are surviving
The recital was great and Shelby was awesome!
The tournament was great and Shelby was awesome!
The shower was nice and Shelby helped me soooo much. She's awesome!!
Some of you may not know that I have stage 4 Endometriosis. Aaron and I have been on an infertility journey for a year now. It has been a long and difficult road and our time for trying to have a baby has come to a halt. I am scheduled for a complete hysterectomy July 8th. I have known that this day would come sooner than later if we did not get pregnant. And well we're not pregnant. So plans are in order to hopefully get as much of the Endo out of my body as safely possible. There will be a colon surgeon on scene to assist in the surgery and help to remove the Endo in places that it should not be. We are coping with this as you would assume... day by day. We will never know why the door has been shut to conceive a baby of our own but it's really not ours to understand. We go into knowing that the Lord is in control. And with that said the peace about it is coming more and more. Slowly but surely. I have never been open about our situation but now is as good as any I guess. So the next few weeks I will be preparing for the surgery. There is more to do than I realized. When I sit back and think about all that has to be pre planned it is truly overwhelming. Shelby will be with her bio father the week of the surgery so she will be taken care and will not have to endure all the pre op appointments and surgery day. She is going to Sea World so her mind will be at ease. I have to plan how she will get to and from all the summer activities. I have to fix freezer meals and the house has to be spotless. I am working summer school so my time is a little more taken than it normally would be during the summer. We will get through it and I have a wonderful support system and lots of help from family and friends. Thanks ya'll!! I couldn't do it without ya.
Hope to have pictures for you next post. But don't count on it! HA!
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Friends and Dancing
We had costume check Thursday at dance and I wanted to show you one of the costumes. It is so cute.
This is her jazz costume. You can't see it very well but just know it is so cute. And she knows she looks good. All of the other costumes are just as cute but this is our favorite. Then Friday we had recital pictures and we were there for 3 1/2 hours. Oh my goodness it was such a long day. The girls were tired and irritable and so were their mothers. We are glad it's over and are looking forward to the recital June 13th. It's her first recital ever. She just started taking dance this year and she LOVES it. Dance has been her favorite extra curricular activity of all time. For years I tried to talk her in to taking but she wasn't hearing of it. Then this year we went to "The Nutcracker" performance and she fell in love. Finally!
Monday, May 18, 2009
Productive Weekend
These are just wooden letters that I sprayed adhesive on and stuck scrapbook paper on top of and then sanded the edges off. Very simple to make just tedious. The "E" was the hardest letter because of all the grooves that you had to sand off. But I managed to make all 6 letters in about an hour and a half. Not bad for my first project. Auntie taught me how to do this. When we went to visit over Spring Break she had a lot of projects going and one of them was a wooden cross that she covered with zebra paper. It is oh so cute!
I hope to start working on my church bench this week. We'll see how it goes. It's another crazy busy week in our household. I am out of school Friday and Monday so I hope to get a lot accomplished if the rain will hold off.
Be a mom who laughs.
Proverbs 17:22 "A happy heart is like good medicine, but a broken spirit drains your strength" (NCV).
Moms, we need to lighten up, or my daughter says, "Chill, Mom!" Kids are fun! Find ways to bring joy and laughter into your home. Jered is a big hunk of a football player, but occasionally, I have to remind him of the fact that I can still take him. He will make some irritating comment, tease me or poke me in the ribs. I warn him and then I see the gleam in his eye as he takes one more shot. I then begin chasing him around the house. Jered inevitably starts laughing so hard that, when I catch him, he is totally helpless. It is quite a sight to see! Moms are the thermostats of the home and need to keep the emotional setting on joy. Children get most of their first impressions of God from their parents. I want my kids to know that God is a God of joy and laughter. Kids need a mom who laughs.
Thursday, May 14, 2009
Charmin Boy
Dear Family and Friends,
It has come to my attention that if you have spent more than a penny on my child in his life time than I’m afraid you have wasted your money. Sorry!!! As I’ve told you before, he simply loves our recycle bin…like a gold treasure to him. As you will see in the pictures, there is truly nothing in our house that is considered trash….and I mean nothing!!!!! So for future gift ideas for Tanner think outside the toy aisle at Wal-Mart!! Before you throw out that piece of garbage, remember him!!!
Seriously, as I was knee deep in cleaning for Heath’s arrival, I looked up and noticed “Charmin Boy!” Is this normal??? HA!!! Last year his stocking was stuffed w/tape…this is why! I secretly have to clean out his room, this is why! He is his father’s son, this is why!
Very creative little guy!!!!
If you look very close you will see that he has made a costume out of the TOILER PAPER PACKAGE!!!!!!!!!!! Charmin at its best!
He is super smart and I'll tell you why. He got in trouble at school and had to write sentences but he was smart enough to hide it from his momma. He got up early yesterday morning and tried to get them written before his momma got up and saw him. Well, he ended up getting caught and so his momma went and had a or another talk with his teacher and they decided it was time for him to go see the PRINCIPAL! Uh-oh! He got 2 licks at school from the principal. He didn't cry and said they didn't even hurt. His daddy said if he was bleeding he wouldn't of cried. Just the kind of guy he is. Tough, I guess. His momma prefers to describe it as severely strong willed. So let's all stop and say a prayer for her. BUT she is thrilled to say that his daddy is home as of last night. Welcome home Heath!
We had another storm blow through our tiny town at 4 this morning. Strong winds, hard rain, thunder and lots of lightning. Thankfully, Bob The Builder came yesterday and fixed our roof so we had a dry ceiling during all the rain. Thank you Lord! We are SO ready for everything to start drying out so we can finish up some much needed outdoor projects. It's supposed to rain all weekend so it's gonna be a while before that time comes. But we are thankful we are all safe and our house is in tact.
Be a mom who encourages.
Today, let's talk about being a mom who encourages her children. In 1 Thessalonians 5:11, we find the simple but life-changing directive, "So encourage each other and give each other strength" (NCV). When we encourage our children, we deposit strength in them. We need to be careful to keep their emotional deposits in balance. Many kids are in emotional bankruptcy because constant withdrawals of criticism are made with few deposits of encouragement. Our job is to study our kids and discover their strengths and weaknesses. We need to understand that many times, their greatest weakness may very well become their greatest strengths.
As a child, I was very stubborn. I know. It is almost impossible to imagine - almost. That stubbornness often got me into trouble, but it also made me the survivor of some very hard times. We need to look for the good things in our children and draw them into the spotlight. In other words, become their "encourager" and their "cheerleader." Everyone needs a cheerleader.
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Biggest Loser
The sun is shining today and it's a sight that we haven't seen in a while. It's beautiful!! I am so thankful for it. Bob the Builder is coming back to the house today to fix the roof. YEAH!!
Have a blessed day!
Being a mom is the hardest job on earth and can bring out the best and the worst in you. I know being a mom requires great sacrifice and limitless energy, but to invest your time and best efforts into a child, to watch that child grow and develop, is to be part of the creative majesty of life itself.
Let's Pray
Lord, thank You for giving me children. Help me to be the mom they deserve. I commit to constantly pray for each child and invest the best part of my time and life in them. Forgive me for allowing lesser things to take the place of my role as a mother and guide me to be a mom that really matters.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Baby Kayleigh
Weekend Update
Sunday afternoon we went and visited with Mimi and Poppy and Aaron's mamaw. We had a nice visit and a relaxed Mother's Day weekend. And I didn't have my camera for any of it! I know it's terrible!
Saturday while getting the house ready for overnight guests the sky decided to fall. There was so much rain in such short amount of time and the wind was blowing so hard that the rain blew into one of the seams of our metal roof. Uh-Oh!! We had rain coming throught the ceiling . There wasn't a massive amount but enough to fill up a couple of bowls and get everything wet that I had just put on the table for Mother's Day lunch. I had all my placemats, linen napkins, plates, silverware, glasses and flowers on the table. They were soaked! We just started grabbing everything and putting bowls out. It finally stopped and all is well now that Bob The Builder came out yesterday and is going to fix all the problems.
Be a mom who gives time.
Proverbs 22:6 "Train children how to live right, and when they are old, they will not change" (NCV).
It takes time to be a mom, to know and to train your children. Every child comes with a set of characteristics already established by God. Our job is to identify those characteristics and then steer the child toward them. The original root word for "train" is the term for "the palate, the roof of the mouth, the gums". In the days of Solomon, a midwife would deliver the baby, dip her finger into the juice of crushed dates, reach into the mouth of the baby and massage the gums and palate to create a sense of taste and thirst. She would then give the child to the mother so the baby could nurse. Our job as mothers is to develop a thirst in our children for the right things. And that takes time.
There is a popular philosophy today that it doesn't matter the quantity of time that we spend with our kids as long as it is quality time. It does matter! Can a woman have it all - a home, a family, a career? I think she can. I'm just not sure she can have them all at the same time. There are seasons of life to which we must yield in order to be the mother God wants us to be. Time spent with children is never wasted! Every minute invested in your child is an eternal investment! Give your children the best of your time -- not the leftovers.
· Make weekly dates with your kids.
· Pull them out of school occasionally for a fun day.
· Have a meal together every day.
· Be involved in the things they enjoy.
In other words, be available! And just your physical presence is not enough. Our normal bedtime routine was to spend a few minutes with each child, talking about the day, praying together and then I would tuck them in for the night. When our daughter, Danna, was six-years-old, Dan was out of town and I was behind in studying for an upcoming retreat. I went in to Jered's room, completed the bedtime routine and he was asleep in minutes. However, when I went into Danna's room, and tried to speed things up, Danna refused to talk. When I asked her why, she cried out, "Mama, you're not here!" Confused and a little irritated, I responded, "Yes, I am! I am right here!" Her big brown eyes filled with tears as she drove the truth home, "But you're not really here on the inside." Be a mom who gives your children time.
Being a mom is the hardest job on earth and can bring out the best and the worst in you. I know being a mom requires great sacrifice and limitless energy, but to invest your time and best efforts into a child, to watch that child grow and develop, is to be part of the creative majesty of life itself. We're half the way there! Tomorrow, we will explore four more ways to be a mom that matters.
Friday, May 8, 2009
Headboard
Do you see him? Well let me give you a close up........
This snake my friends is a...copperhead! I was outside yesterday getting ready to put flowers in pots and there he was - right beside me! Aaron was at softball practice with Shelby. So I was all alone standing on the bench that is on my front porch. I was on the phone with Auntie when I saw him and I screamed and freaked out. She went to the computer and I tried to explain what he looked like so she could tell me if he was poisonous or not. If he wasn't then I was going to kill him and go on about my business. If he was, well, I guess I was going to stand on that bench til Aaron got home. So meanwhile Auntie's telling Tan man that I have snake in my front yard and he immediately asks "where are the horses"? (Thanks for the concern little buddy. Coco's okay don't worry about it). He wanted to look also but he told his momma that he needed a chair to stand in. She asked him why he needed a chair and he told her he can't look at pictures of snakes unless he was standing in a chair. So me and Tan man (him being over 200 miles away) were sure to get off the ground away from the snake. She never really figured out what kind he was because I couldn't explain it very well. Finally Aaron and Shelby came home and he got a bat and whacked it in the head and said"hmm, it's a copperhead, I just killed one of those just last week". WHAT???? Uh,thanks for the heads up that we have snakes roaming around the yard.
Now for the headboard. Okay you can't laugh! It's not set up yet. It's leaned against the wall under our car port right now and we intend to get it set up this weekend. You'll just have to excuse the star in the background and try to make the picture out as best you can.
This is the other side. This headboard is made of old panels that was used for cattle back in the day. I was in the barn about 6 mos. ago and saw them and decided right then and there that was my new headboard. So we took it over to a little shop in town and the nice man cleaned it up, made a few repairs and put a clear seal over it. Now, in my opinion... it's beautiful ! I can't wait to get it up in my room. I know it's a little out of the ordinary but that 's just the kind of gal I am.
Here are my flowers that I got on sale. They are still in their original pots but well I had a visitor last night that prohibited me from doing anything other than standing on a bench waiting for my man to get home.
Be a mom who prays continually.
I Thessalonians 5:17 should be every mother's commitment to her children. "Never stop praying" (ICB). It is never too late to start praying and it is always too early to stop.
Pray for God's plan -- not yours -- when praying for your children.
Pray that you will see your child like God sees your child.
Pray specifically for your child. For example, I often pray Proverbs 3:5-6 for our son, "Lord, I pray that Jered would trust in you with all his heart and will lean not unto his own understanding. I pray that in all his ways Jered will acknowledge you and that you will direct his paths." And for our daughter, I pray 1 Peter 5:7, "Lord, I pray that Danna would cast all her care upon you, because you care for her."
Prayer is an eternal gift we can give to our children, teaching them the importance of prayer and teaching them how to pray. I recently heard the story of a mother who had invited several people to dinner. At the table, she turned to their six-year-old daughter and said, "Would you like to say the blessing?" "I wouldn't know what to say," the girl replied. "Just say what you hear Mommy say," she answered. The daughter bowed her head and said, "Lord, why on earth did I invite all these people to dinner?"
We began early to pray with our kids at bedtime. I am convinced that if we pray for our children and with our children, it will change their lives and ours and give us insight that we can gain no other way.
Have a great weekend. Happy Mother's Day to all the mommies. Remember to acknowledge all those women who are waiting to be called that sweet name "mommy".
Thursday, May 7, 2009
My House
but my door is green and I'm not real sure how it will look. I'm afraid it won't pop like this one. I love the monogram on it. That's really what I'm in search of. Got any ideas??
I'm am also starting to put flowers in my beds. My sis sent this pic of her front porch. I have lots of ideas, I just have to put them to use.
Her pot is monogrammed. How cute. She painted the terra cotta pots black and then painted her initial with lime green paint. Her theme colors are lime green, black and pink. She's just a little OCD!
And isn't this cute she just put a small green plant in a bucket and with a paint pen wrote an "L" on it. Then hung it on a planter hanger.
I went to Lowe's the other day and they were having a buy one get one free sale on some of their flowers. So I had at it. I got all my flowers for $0.75! What a deal, huh? I was thrilled to get in on the sale. I had to do a little persuading when it came to pay because they argued with me about the sale being over but I checked before I started shopping. So 30 minutes later I walked away with 75 cent flowers. I plan to put them in the ground and in my pots if the rain will hold off just a few more hours.
Also, my beautiful church bench will get a new coat of black paint. There's lots going on at my house this week and I will post more pics as soon as I charge my camera battery. I also got a new headboard. It's nothing like what you think so don't expect a new beautiful extravagant piece of furniture. I will show you tomorrow. Just a clue: it's an old barn gate! I love it!
I got an email from a dear friend the other day and I plan to share a piece of it everyday until Mother's Day. I did not write this email and neither did she. In fact I don't even know who did but it's really good and it's what ALL moms to be doing for their children.
Be a mom who loves God.
1 John 4:19 "We love, because God first loved us" (NCV).
We are incapable of loving our children like they were meant to be loved until we first love God! Motherhood at its best demands a thriving partnership with God! We cannot give unconditional love until we have experienced unconditional love! And God is the only source of that kind of love! We can do everything else right as a parent but if we don't begin with loving God - we will fail!
This is just the first part of the email and it gets better so check back everyday to see what tomorrow holds.
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Yucky!
Don't forget your teachers this week. It is National Teacher's Appreciation Week. Shel's teacher has received a small gift every day this week. Monday she got a Dr. Pepper and Peanut M&M's, Tuesday she got a $5 Sonic gift card, today she got bath gel and a loofah, tomorrow she is getting a breakfast bag with a cereal bar, banana and juice and Friday she is getting a nail file inside a monogrammed holder. I like to make sure her teacher understands how much she is appreciated. After all she takes care of my child 8 hours a day and she is her caretaker when I am not. To me that deserves more than what I could ever give her.
Auntie has spoiled Tan man's teacher this week as well. She is much better than me because she took pictures of her gifts. I think she did this because she wanted to be sure that I wrapped my teacher's gifts cute. See Auntie thinks I ghetto everything and if she shows me how to act then I'm more apt to have a little more class. So here are pics of Auntie's teacher's gifts...
She made them all cute. And by the way I have to give credit where credit is due. Auntie is the one who came up with all my teacher's gifts. She called me Sunday night and asked what I had for Ms. Emily and we decided on a week's worth of gifts for her. So, thanks for the help, Auntie.
Happy Teacher's Appreciation Week!
Friday, May 1, 2009
It's been a while
We had a great time in Okalahoma last weekend. The MS Walk was a huge success. There were1,740 people that walked and they raised over $119,000.00 and money is still coming in. Isn't that wonderful? I took lots of pictures at the zoo and I will share just a few of them with you.
This past weekend was a little - a lot hectic due to the severe weather in our area. Luckily we came out with no damage and no tornadoes touching down. I went on storm watch with Aaron. It was very interesting sitting in the truck watching the sky for rotation. I kept asking my wonderful husband what we're going to do if we do see something. He calmly said we would just get out of the way. Like it was no big deal. Have I lost my mind??? Shelby was in T-town with my mom and dad and I was NOT staying home by myself! So the only option I had was to go with him. I have to admit I felt rather safe with him. I just really wanted my baby girl with me in the midst of the drama.
This week has been really busy as well as last week. So I hope to bring more news later. Have a great day.
P.S. Sunday was National Infertility Survival Day. Recognize all the women who have survived the loss of a child and the women who will never know what it's like to be called "mommy". As Mother's Day approaches try to be courteous to those women. But don't ignore them either.
Thursday, April 23, 2009
MS Walk
Meet Team Sagowitz- Aaron's Dad(a.k.a. Poppy or Roe), Aaron's Mom (a.k.a. Mimi or Carolyn), Aaron (a.k.a. A-daddy or "A" or meany), Me (a.k.a. mommy or Coco or sweetheart(ha!)), Shelby (a.k.a. Little Bit or mini me), Brad (a.k.a."B" or Uncle Brad) and Friends(a.k.a. people I know I was introduced to and for the life of me have no idea what their names are or Megan and Brad's friends) Not pictured: Megan and the rest of Team Sagowitz
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Firemen
Once you turned off of my county road and drove into the city limits you could see the smoke from miles away.
this was taken shortly after they set the fire - walls are still standing
the firemen hard at work
Aaron and Clint controlling the water (not a good thing)
Remember when the firemen were accessing the situation and were trying to figure out WHO to spray next? Well, here is their victim...Micheal Terry - Fireman Of The Year. They hosed him not sprayed him down. He had on bunker gear and was still SOAKIN wet!! Poor guy!
Tommy and Clint- I made the mistake of joking with them and telling them they could make a firemen calendar. And...well...it went from there. So here they are (trying) to dance and they posed for a lot of pictures!
This is the last picture of the house I took before I left. The walls were mostly caved in at this point.
I enjoyed watching all the firemen in action. I always get the stories but never the mental pictures to go along with it. So now I know what's involved in a house fire. The guys weren't as serious as they normally would of been if it were a real fire that wasn't set. They did a lot of training when the house first started to burn. Then they made the most of it and decided to try to make sure everyone went home wet. And I did go home wet. The guys just loved spraying me and I was a easy target because I was right there in the middle of them snapping pictures. They didn't seem to care one bit that my camera was getting wet. Even my husband thought it was fun to spray me. He'll pay, don't worry!
I did learn a few things while I was standing there watching. Well I didn't learn it, it was just brought to my attention. First, fires are scary! I have never seen a house be fully engulfed in flames before. I never realized the heat a house fire puts off. I learned to respect the fire. I can't even begin to imagine how hot hell is going to be if you don't know the Lord as your personal Savior. It's something to think about. I know I wouldn't want to be there and I know that I'm not going to be there.
Secondly, I realized just how lucky I am that everything I own has never just gone up in flames. To stand back and watch how powerful the fire can be is breath taking.
Thirdly, I realized that every single time that fire pager goes off, my husband puts his life at risk for someone else. I'm not sure I've acknowledged nor understood how much of a risk each of those firemen take on a daily basis. It was humbling- to say the least. So if you know a fireman don't forget to say thank-you for what they do. If you know a volunteer fireman don't forget to tell them how much you appreciate the sacrifice they make. Because after all they don't have to give up their time. They sure aren't getting anything out of it - other than self satisfaction.
A couple of weeks ago I told you about Stellan. In the womb he was diagnosed with a heart condition and was not supposed to live. Miraculously he was born healthy. His heart has slipped into SVT and has been in and out for 4 weeks now. He is having surgery today. Please keep him in your prayers today.
Monday, April 20, 2009
9th Birthday
Well, my baby is officially 9! We had a fun weekend even though it poured down rain Saturday. We took Shel and one of her little friends to see "Hannah Montana: The Movie".
I caved in and got her a cell phone for her birthday. I know she's only 9. BUT she does go from our house to her dad's a lot. In fact she goes to her bio dads 2 nights a week. That's just too much time away without any means of instant communication with me. Sometimes issues arise and she needs me and has to ask her dad if she can use his phone and he doesn't let her. So this way she doesn't have to ask to call me. She can just grab her phone and get a hold of me. She has been asking for a very long time now if she could have a phone. Aaron and I both were totally against because she is so young. It has now been brought to my attention that she is one of the few in her class that doesn't have a cell phone. Really? When did children start getting cell phones?? I know I was a little... ok... a lot later than most on getting one but I was 24 before I got a phone.
It was like Christmas morning at our house
Clint and Wanda came over Saturday night and brought her a gift: a pink fishing pole and a bag of softballs.
opening presents from Mimi and Poppy
she got a water gun
whoo-hoo!
posing for the camera
She had a big day. The birthday girl was pooped! (Check out those lips! )
The next party I will be hosting is a baby shower for Wanda. She is due July4th and we will have a shower at my house the first Sunday in June. I am desperatly looking for ideas. Her baby's room is decorated in a fireman theme(Clint is also a volunteer fireman). I don't really want to do a fireman shower. I'd like to use some of the colors but I am not sure exactly how to decorate. Any ideas?? I need help. Auntie will make a banner with his name on it like she did with this one for another friend.
Isn't it cute? She put his monogram on the ends of it. I just love it. It's brown and blue like the colors they will be using at the shower.
My only dilemma on Wanda's shower is that I don't want it to look like July 4th if I were to use the colors in the baby's room. Or should I do a July 4th themed shower? Help!!
Don't forget if you want a banner like the ones posted in the pictures contact my sister, Tiffany(a.k.a. Auntie) at tifflotz@bellsouth.net She would love to make you a banner.